I try to get out as much as possible -- gym, dance classes, adult education classes, etc. Girls look at me like I'm crazy when I say I'm enjoying dating here, but I guess it's all relative! I dunno, I just think I am friendly and they see me as approachable. Make conversation with the guy or gal next to you (who is holding the "How To Flirt" book in the self-help aisle). _______________________ Arlington, VA: Maybe its just me, but I've noticed a severe lack of initiative in dating from both sexes. Get an i Pod, pretend you can't put your songs on it, then make an appointment for some one-on-one support.
But I am very shy to approach men or even make direct eye contact with them. Kelly Ann Collins: I have dated in NYC, too, and I agree that the guys here in D. _______________________ Capitol Hill: The problem here is no one knows how to flirt.
Why is it that so many people look to dating sites instead of actually going out to meet people? And some people say that it's easier to get to know people via chat / e-mail because people let down their guard. For me "context" means friends in common, seeing how they treat people, etc. That's just over nine-tenths of a man for every woman." (Post, Sept. I don't know what it is - the return of cold and dreary weather, or work, but I'm finding that I'm getting tired of all the normal spots I used to frequent over the summer. C.: I have a friend who can't seem to find a decent date in the whole city. She feels left out of the fun and has given up completely. Of course she is feeling left out, she's hanging out with a bunch of married couples! otherwise, you are going to annoy them and strike out big time. Well, you can definitely cast a wider net on the Net. I've been doing online dating but I miss the "context" of meeting guys. C.: At my big law firm, the female lawyers will date the non-legal staff, but the male lawyers will only date female lawyers. Kelly Ann Collins: I'm gonna have to plead the Fifth on this one ... C.: Say if you walk into a bar with your boyfriend, but realize you've met a rich venture capitalist and want to go home with him. Kelly Ann Collins: Maybe it is because you act differently when you are out with other people. washingtonpost.com:"For every 100 single women in Washington, there are only 93.4 men. I hear that Thursdays at Blue Gin are coming back as well. Pfft.) Now, I just say, "Hey, this is not working for me. She thinks you're cute." _______________________ Washington, D. with a splash of Sprite and a splash of cranberry ... Then, send her off to meet some single girlfriends to hang out with. : I'm planning on moving to NYC soon, please don't say the dating scene is worse there. Kelly Ann Collins: You'd better fill out one of those personality profiles and hope for the best! Focus on going out and making friends in your new city. But lots of people like to read / work on the train, so make sure the person you wanna talk to isn't busy *first* ...Lots of nice 27-35 gals go to those places after work. _______________________ Bowie, Md.: I am a busy professional woman in her 30s. But, you have to let them know they're not going to totally strike out (men have feelings, too). If you are not into the club scene, try coffee shops, like Tryst in Adams Morgan ... _______________________ NYC to WDC: I moved here from New York and find dating to be so much easier/better/nicer here. who knows, maybe with your coaching, you can help him find dating happiness. C.: I always hear great stories of people meeting at bookstores or coffee shops in other cities. and, I've never gone anywhere *looking* for a date. _______________________ Reality: Is it inappropriate for me to ask what your credentials are for speaking about the DC dating scene? If he says no, delete him from your Outlook, say "next! Where are the 30-ish women who are looking to settle down? But even if that is the case, it seems like everyone wants "friends with benefits" and that's it.It has been more than eight years since I have been on a date. Guys are more genuine, down-to-earth and relationship-minded. I just go out looking to have fun and I think that is the vibe they get from me. Are we to assume you've actually had some dates recently? Kelly Ann Collins: They are the ones shopping at "Babies R Us" after Sunday brunch with their pregnant, married friends. guys only want model-y types, but that seems to me to be the case when I work and live with some of the nicest, smartest, wittiest, most fun women in the area. Where can a girl go to meet a nerdy, cute, nice guy? Online: Hmm, learn to play "World of Warcraft" and frequent the Dev Shed forums. actually, the guys working the "Genius Bar" at the Pentagon City and Clarendon Apple Stores are pretty hot.
According to recent Census Bureau data, the District has the lowest ratio of single men to single women in the nation. (And, who knows, you might meet someone.) I also think it would be a good idea to get out and mingle in person. Kelly Ann Collins: Where are you looking for these women? : This may not be your area of expertise, but where's the best place for a mid-30s gay man to meet new men to date? _______________________ Clarendon: The key to dating as a man in D. is to dress well, lie creatively and cover her tab. because a guy that is not a good boyfriend can still be a good friend. Kelly Ann Collins: I don't think we are less adventuresome. I've also met people at bookstores and coffee shops. If he gives you his card in return, it's probably a green flag. _______________________ Bowie, Md.: I think the male-to-female ratio in D. I am a black man and I moved here thinking there was a surplus of women.
In your opinion, what is the best venue...classifieds, computer dating or just good old supermarket singles scene? Go ahead and try a site, such as match.com, to get yourself back into the practice of talking to single women. _______________________ Arlington, Va.: I'm a single heterosexual guy, and my friends and I keep hearing about the imbalance in the female:male ratio in the D. So my question is: Where do all the single women go on Friday/Saturday night? I think I need to become more aggressive when I meat guys at parties and other areas by letting my interest known. I am tired with waiting for them to make a move and need to readjust my signals of availability. If you really think you like someone, have a mutual friendster introduce you. _______________________ Fish In Barrel: This is great..us fat, hairy and bald guys can have attitude and pick and choose. It's like fishing with grenades around here, a target rich environment. All you ex-homecoming queens and cheerleaders better be nice to us non-Brad Pitt guys or else you'll be sitting home alone waiting to be eaten by the cat. I see it as my duty to warn women about this unbalanced ratio ... And do you think men go through a "phase" with some of their relationships and then come out of it? Kelly Ann Collins: I have remained friends with lots of flipfloppers ... have run up to me on the street, tossed their biz cards from cars, fallen into me on the ice rink and whispered to me at museums. : Hey, the shy fella that likes to meet people in the real world. Kelly Ann Collins: A Wa Po love connection, perhaps? Do you think it is okay for a woman to approach a man and ask him for a date? Say hello, flirt a little, and then give the object of your affection your biz card. I am a 36-year-old man and have yet to see a predominance of women.