But while women say they have a "type"—they love bearded gingers or get off on guys in glasses—they don't filter out man who doesn't meet those specific physical criteria. It's a sweeping prejudice masquerading as sexual preference.
When one guy changed his height on his Ok Cupid profile from his actual 5'4" to an average 5'9", his response rate nearly doubled.
Webb found that it isn't just men lying about their height online, women do, too—to appear shorter. I've taken to giving my whiskey a single swirl, looking down my nose and saying slowly, "You are boring me. You would never walk up to a woman and open with, "What's your bra size?
The first question most strangers ask me is "How tall are you? In one survey, about half of collegiate men required their date to be shorter, while a monstrous nine of every ten women said they would only date a taller man.
" If I'm feeling charitable, I answer honestly: "6-foot-2." They often follow-up with, "Do you ever date shorter men? And online, it's even more brutal: Women can calculate how tall they are in their highest heels, add a few inches for good measure, and then filter out men who fall below that sum.
This is essential to know—it's not just about shortness, but also skinniness.
To be bigger than men is to worry that you'll turn them off.
The average woman is eight percent shorter than her male partner.
Of course the ability to search for people who meet our criteria is part of the appeal of online dating.
"Someone who's smaller may be wonderful, but in my case he will never make me feel like he's in control." (To those of you who just thought , I agree.
I'll get there in a minute.)Women have internalized the message that it's better for us to be smaller.
Read: 10 Ways To Have Better Sex, According to Science This is bullshit.Single people sign up for a half-dozen dating sites and apps in order to widen their pool, yet most won't break the height taboo. Men should date women who are taller than they are, and women should date shorter men.