How do you handle the simple logistics of a date if you aren't able to drive or even take public transportation?
We talked to people who've been there and other experts to find some answers.
By the time I got to the doctor, I couldn't keep my balance.” A neurologist immediately ordered a magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scan, which revealed a spinal cord lesion in her neck.
“Because of where it is, you could have serious mobility problems,” he told her. You need to be in the hospital right now.” From her hospital bed, where she was receiving high doses of intravenous steroids to calm the inflammation in her spinal cord, Milliken wrote an email to the guy she'd been dating.
“The third date had enormous potential to go somewhere, and I'd really been looking forward to that,” she says. I told him, ‘Hey, I'm in the hospital and you'll never believe this, but I just got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis [MS].
It'll take me a little bit to recover, but I'm looking forward to going out again.’” The guy quickly emailed back—“Oh, I'm sorry to hear that! Dating is a minefield for everyone and horror stories abound, from tales of meeting wackos and weirdos to never hearing back from someone you really liked.
But when you have a neurologic condition—especially one that could be progressive—it gets even more “complicated,” to borrow a term from Facebook status-speak. When do you reveal your condition—and how much do you reveal—if it's not evident?
“As my brain was telling my feet to walk left, right, left, right, the left side was behind.
” Franklin's situation is not atypical, says Rosalind Kalb, vice president of the professional resource center at the National MS Society.