By the time many people notice the obvious red flags, they're already attached to an abuser, which makes it much harder for them to leave the relationship.More useful than a list of obvious red flags are guidelines based onof a potentially abusive relationship, signs that are visible before an attachment bond is formed.Their blame of others can make you look great by comparison: "You're so smart, sensitive, caring, and loving, not like that bitch I used to go out with." "Why couldn't I have met you before that self-centered, greedy, woman I used to date?
The following is a list of qualities to look for in a potential lover. Note: During the early stages of your relationship, your partner is not likely to do any of these things to you.
But witnessing these attitudes and behaviors toward others is a sure sign that they will turn onto you, sooner or later.