any parent would be concerned to see that type of message be shared with their children and would want to understand the decoded text.As quoted in a recent article from CNN, Katie Greer , a national Internet safety expert has been providing Internet and technology safety training to schools, law enforcement agencies and community organizations throughout the country for more than seven years.Here’s a situation we can all relate to: you and your friends are out on the town for the night and a guy approaches you. Your curiosity eats away at you, and after he leaves himself signed into Facebook on your computer, you snoop. We’ve heard the stories of over 65 collegiettes™ and talked to a relationship expert to find out if it’s okay to go through your boyfriend’s digital world, how to confront him about it if you don’t like what you see, and how to recognize whether or not he’s cheating. Does that make you just as “bad” of a person as he is if he has been doing something behind your back? I say this because I’ve been a snooper who has had these exact same thoughts. There was no Suzie Shmoo-business going on, but he was texting a girl he used to hook-up with before we started dating. Were these collegiettes™ happy with what they found?You’re flirting and chatting and you even end the night with a little bit of making-out-on-the-dance-floor action. Later that week as you’re walking to class (and thinking about him), you receive an alert on your i Phone or Blackberry from Facebook: the guy from last weekend wants to be friends. And there’s an entire message thread between your boyfriend and Suzie Shmoo. He just told you tonight that he was going to a concert with his best friend Johnny on Thursday night, so you confront him. You’re angry he lied to you and has plans with Suzie Shmoo. We also talked to college guys about thoughts on digital cheating. There were a couple of times in a past relationship when I went through my boy’s phone and Facebook. I was curious and in our long-distance relationship I couldn’t help but feel insecure at times. While it was “harmless,” it bothered me that he was texting her behind my back. 20 said “yes” and 32 said “no.” Here are their tales: the good, the bad, and the ugly.She says research shows that a majority of teens believe that their parents are starting to keep tabs on their online and social media lives and “with that, acronyms can be used by kids to hide certain parts of their conversations from attentive parents,” Greer said.It’s an exciting, yet, potentially dangerous exchange. Every time you heard that bing-sound from Facebook chat you’d instantly hope it was him — and it usually was! “I’m really excited to watch with you this Thursday night,” she wrote in the Facebook thread. It also bothered him that I went through his phone without him knowing. “Actually, at the time I suspected he was cheating and confronted him about it.But fast forward the seven months you’ve been dating and here’s your daily routine: You wake up, check your e-mail, eat a banana, read Her Campus, check your Facebook and read on your newsfeed that Suzie Shmoo wrote on your boyfriend’s wall at p.m. 51 out of the 65 surveyed collegiettes™ admitted that at one time or another they’ve snooped. He let me go through everything on his Facebook, granted he probably deleted things, but it ended up not being that big of a deal in the end.” — Sarah*, sophomore, Arizona State University “I chose to tell him [that I snooped] because it did kind of bother me.
This unique form of language is called text speak (or ‘txtspk’) for online, chat, SMS and lingo.
The language is a combination of shorthand, shortened words, and creative spellings by kids using uppercase and lowercase, as well as use of punctuation marks.
An issue for parents is deciding on how to understand slang and acronyms that they may otherwise think are just jibberish.
Such as ‘PIR’ meaning parents in room, or ‘GNOC’ which means “get naked on camera”….
And if this or a similar situation hasn’t happened to you personally, Her Campus is here to help you if it ever does— or you can just read on to justify your own past snoop-like behavior. Are you being dishonest by going through his e-mail without him knowing?It was harmless, but he spends a bit too much time on his on-line gaming and that's what's irritating.