She has to be a great conversationalist, smart, witty, funny, and “not get embarrassed easily.” (Why are we specifying this?
Again, troubled.) She has to be into sports – playing sports and watching sports – and be able to kick back with the guys.
) But there is one issue in particular I’d like to take up.
Did you know that 99% of the guys on are adventure travelers?
I’m turning 30 in a few months, and I recently realized I’m now at the age I made a lot of promises about in the past.
One of those promises was that if I was still single at 30, I’d try online dating.
And of course they love traveling and frequent all these crazy places like Iceland and Belize and Egypt and Greece and the rainforests or whatever. I live in North Carolina, 3 hours away from the mountains and 3 hours away from the beach. And how are they getting time off from work to travel all the time, at age 30? Are those the type of characteristics these guys are looking for? She has to be beautiful and adventurous and also love adventure sports like ziplining and whatever the hell, and she also has to love to travel.
They are outdoors all the time, playing every sport that was ever invented, including some you’ve never heard of (sled hockey? These guys say they are ambitious and have pretty good jobs where they are making average salaries. She has to be open to trying anything (I’m assuming this means sexual positions) and be outgoing and extroverted and like to go out but also like to stay in.
The majority of guys on the site go on and on about all of the outdoor adventure activity they do, including mountain climbing, ziplining, white water rafting, bungee jumping, parasailing, sky diving, someone even talked about alligator wrestling. Now on my profile, I checked off the box saying that I want someone who wants kids and who’s single (… And I wrote out by hand that I am looking for an easy-going, honest, passionate guy.
I’ve had an onslaught of terrible dating experiences in the last year (including someone who turned out to be a drug dealer, someone who was mad I didn’t want to come hang out at his bedbug-infested apartment, and a commitment-phobe friend who constantly appears to be doing an uncanny Jekyll and Hyde impression). (Wow.) There’s no end to what I could write about my experiences on Match.com, and I’ve only been on the site for a week.
I am also at the age where apparently I better hurry up if I want kids. (My favorite is probably the guy whose opening line was, “Hey baby u r cute n sexy, come cuddle w me by my fireplace.” Sounds great, what’s the address?!
you’re helping), know who she is and what she wants, and, my ultimate favorite, ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM. Have you considered the fact that you are on because this is what you’re holding out for?!
She also has to be ambitious, be smart and successful, be educated and have a great job, be family-oriented, be career-driven, want to have (and, unspoken, take care of) kids, knows how to take care of herself (I can only assume this means that she’s thin and has highlights and gets manicures), be outdoorsy, like to be outside all the time (these are apparently two different things), like to camp and hike, be “active” and work out frequently, did I mention beautiful?
, like all different kinds of foods and be willing to try – AND LIKE, GODDAMNIT – any kind of exotic food, not be pessimistic or complain, be loyal and honest, not be self-conscious about anything (… Do you sincerely think you can find all of this in one person? (Not that you’d be into her, since she’s athletic and toned and probably doesn’t have time for parachuting with all those babies in tow.) It’s this bad, and I haven’t even been on a date yet.