Jenna voiced a common concern among single Christians looking for a lifelong partner: “My spiritual beliefs and values often make dating a very risky pursuit.I’ve been set up with guys—even ones who know I’m a Christian—who expect me to go along with their lifestyle choices: sex, drugs, excessive drinking, and the rest.Other times, guys find out I’m a Christian and automatically assume I’m uptight and judgmental.
The time to think through any potentially perilous situation is before it happens. If holding to your values is important to you, take time to identify them before you start dating. Many awkward and compromising situations can be avoided by simply being honest with your date about your standards.If you traveled to a large city, you would get clear directions to your exact destination so you don’t end up in an unsafe area. If your dating partner resists your efforts to be true to your beliefs, then do yourself a favor—gracefully bow out. When facing any challenge, it helps to know you are not alone.There’s a broad spectrum of what it means for people to call themselves a Christian—from very liberal to very conservative and everything in between.Just because a woman calls herself a Christian doesn’t mean her beliefs or lifestyle choices are the same as mine.”Define your standards in advance. Some Christian singles are reluctant to voice their convictions for fear of being labeled “old-fashioned” or “narrow-minded.” But it’s best to be up-front about what is and is not acceptable to you.
As Brad said, “I’ve heard Christian dating advice that assumes all Christians are exactly the same.But it’s not as if every believer fits a certain profile.