According to New York Magazine’s Beta Male, ‘benching’ is the new dating term you need to know about. But you’re still on the team, ready and waiting for when the coach decides to bring you back into play.Benching is when someone you’re interested in stops actually hanging out with you or committing to dates, but continues to text, tweet, or snapchat you. It’s also known as being kept on the hook, left on backburner, or simply being led on. Remember when the world finally came up with the term ‘ghosting’, and we finally had a way to describe all the dates that had disappeared from our lives? Well, good news: there’s a new way to describe all the massive d*ckheads in your life. What a wonderful time to be alive, we said, sobbing into a plate of nachos after another failed relationship.But we don’t want to cut things off either, in case we end up alone.
‘We keep our options open because we don’t want to risk making the wrong choice.
‘Even when we do choose and commit to a date, in the back of our mind is the notion that someone better could be out there.’ And so, no matter who we’re interested in, we don’t want to fully commit in case something better comes along.
, because there’s no way to have a clean break or move on.
Just when you’re giving up, you’ll get a noncommital but flirty text.
‘Online dating has made it easier than ever to bench people,’ say Selina and Vicki.‘We can send a nice message and keep people interested with a few taps of the thumbs. ) from the bencher and keeps options open with the benchees.’ do people bench potential dates rather than just cutting things off, or even just ghosting? ‘We have more dating choice than ever before, but it’s actually more of a hindrance than a help as too much choice overwhelms us and makes it harder to make a decision.