Dear Rosie & Sherry, I'm dating a guy and I think he's great. There's just one problem: I don't think he's very smart!The last guy I dated was by far intellectually superior, and I got used to being more stimulated in that department.Rosie Einhorn (a psychotherapist) and Sherry Zimmerman (a psychotherapist and former family lawyer) are the authors of the newly-released book, Dating Smart – Navigating the Path to Marriage, published by Menucha Publishers. I'm working on my phd, and have large goals to challenge myself and he's been in the same position since I first met him, without much initiative for anything or himself. This is completely unacceptable and I can't imagine bringing children into the picture if he doesn't have a sence of self, which is what you need to even start understanding why building a nest egg is so important. I found I wanted to talk about science and/or tech and I couldn't talk to her about those things. I don't want to stereotype but as a shortcut to understanding think stereotype of a hairdresser paired with a quantum physicist and the physicist would like to discuss the things he's dealing with. He is a good man w/a good heart, attractive & kind, but whenever he opened his mouth around my friends, I would cringe, waiting for something embarrassing to come out & it always did.My current guy has very simple views on life and doesn't really take on intellectual challenges. I'm not sure I will be able to respect him in the long term. Aliza Dear Aliza , You're not being petty to want to connect to the man you are dating on an intellectual level.However, there are a number of ways to connect to someone intellectually, and dating partners, as well as life partners, don't have to be intellectual equals in order to relate to each other well.
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Due to the large volume of questions received, they are unable to answer each one. I broke-up w/my boyfriend due to such a vast difference in intellect, that even my friends were commenting behind my back.