I soon learned that even I, as a woman, didn’t like talking about feelings as much as he did.
Probably because his feelings were accusations targeted towards me.
These include a need for constant reassurance and approval, distrustful, smothering behavior (basically he wants to be with you all day, everyday).
Honestly I didn’t think any relationship, past or future, could get any worse than that until a few months ago when I dated an insecure man. He was intelligent, ambitious, and had a promising career that paid him extremely well.
He had great conversation, opened doors, was considerate, and liked to talk about feelings.
He snooped my Facebook page (yes, this grown man), interrogated me about childhood guy friends, and even questioned my ‘feelings’ when I didn’t respond back to his calls in what he considered a reasonable amount of time.
According to him, I didn’t show that I cared enough and every guy besides him was the person I really wanted to be with.
My last dating situation was probably one of the worst.
The first time the jealous accusations occurred I shook them off, partly flattered that he didn’t mind showing he cared. But the second time when he stalked my Facebook wall picking out posts from guys who had written me before he and I even began dating, I knew I wasn’t in a healthy situation. If I made a nice comment about another man, he said I didn’t compliment him enough.If I talked about guy coworkers in an innocent manner, he questioned my relationship with them.Insecure men come in all disguises, but most share the common traits of appearing sensitive and caring.To most women a caring man who listens is a hot commodity; but it quickly changes when his insecure traits take over the relationship. ” psychologist Joseph Nowenski, highlights some traits of an insecure man.
And if I didn’t answer the phone when he called, he immediately accused me of cheating.These accusations came in the form of long text messages telling me how inconsiderate I was and how I didn’t make him feel wanted.