Below are seven keys to dealing with aggressive individuals, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, & Controlling People.” Not all of these ideas may apply to your particular situation. By doing so, they create an advantage over you, from which they can exploit your weakness.The first rule of thumb in the face of a difficult person is to keep your cool.Your time is valuable, and your happiness and well-being are important.Unless there’s something important at stake, don’t expend yourself by trying to grapple with a person who’s negatively entrenched. How to Communicate Effectively and Handle Difficult People.In many instances, by the time you reach ten, you would have regained composure, and figured out a better response to the issue, so that you can reduce, instead of exacerbate the problem.If you're still upset after counting to ten, take a time out if possible, and revisit the issue after you calm down.If necessary, use phrases such as “I’ll get back to you…” or “Let me think about it…” to buy yourself time.By maintaining self-control, you leverage more power to manage the situation. Keep Your Distance and Keep Your Options Open — Anonymous Not all aggressive, intimidating, or controlling individuals are worth tasseling with.
When you feel upset with or challenged by someone, before you say or do something you might later regret, take a deep breath and count slowly to ten.On the surface, they may come across as domineering, confrontational, demanding, hostile, or even abusive.However, with astute approach and intelligent communication, you may turn aggression into cooperation, and condescension into respect. Keep Your Cool and Maintain Composure ― Luce Irigaray, philosopher One of the most common characteristics about aggressive, intimidating, and controlling individuals is that they like to deliberately upset you in order to push your buttons, pull your strings, and keep you off balance.— Paramhansa Yogananda Most of us encounter aggressive, intimidating, or controlling personalities at some points in our lives.
These individuals may exist in our personal sphere or professional environment.
Whether you’re dealing with an angry driver, a pushy relative, or a domineering supervisor, keep a healthy distance, and avoid engagement unless you absolutely have to. Depersonalize and Shift from Reactive to Proactive Miguel Angel Ruiz Being mindful about the nature of aggressive, intimidating, and controlling people can help us de-personalize the situation, and turn from being reactive to proactive. (2006) The Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR). (1948)Youmay have hose fundemental rights, but unless you have the power to back them up, they are ultimately unenforceable and worthless.