By the time I was 18 months old, I was declared profoundly deaf, meaning I cannot hear anything. Woman C: I was born with hearing, but I gradually lost it over time.I'd also have to try and find a well-lit place so I could see him and read his lips.I don't use Deaf with a capital D because those who use Deaf with a capital D are part of a specific community, with sign language as their primarily means of communication.
Woman A: I had my first boyfriend at 14, but not a "real" one until I was 21. Woman C: I didn't have an official date until my freshman year of high school.Woman A: Prior to getting my cochlear implants, it was hard for me to date the guy I was seeing at the time because I couldn't hear him well and he'd get frustrated.A recent thread on Reddit featured a 20-year-old deaf woman who said she really wanted to have sex, but she was scared to. Woman A: In the past, I liked "hearing impaired" or "hard of hearing." I didn't like to refer to myself as being deaf because to me, being deaf meant I had absolutely no hearing.She said she worried about how she would sound to the people she had sex with, especially since she'd read a lot of comments online that mocked deaf people having sex. I was legally deaf, but I had a tiny bit of hearing.
Woman B: I honestly don't have a preference between uppercase and lowercase d/Deaf.
I see making a distinction between the two often divides the culturally proud Deaf from those who have a similar experience and shared oppressions, but are maybe not friends with tons of Deaf people or what have you (because of accessibility and other factors).