Order a drink (or a few); as theatre critic George Jean Nathan used to say, “I drink to make other people more interesting.” Do what it takes to get fascinated with your Dutchman. “A drunk Dutchman behaves like a normal man,” a woman in Amsterdam told me.
• If a Dutch guy starts explaining his job, divorce, kids, salary, living situation, etc. It may seem crass, but to many Dutch this is an integral part of flirting.
Sluttier or more desperate Dutch men are even known to work the room, explaining their CVs to any girl who will listen until they find one who expresses interest.
This explains why a female friend-of-TP was recently asked by an apparently interested Dutchman in a bar, “So, why did your last boyfriend break up with you?” • Strongly related to the above two points: Dutch guys have a reputation for being boring.Dutch guys expect girls to be forward, have a lot of personality, and make their own decisions.Women in most countries are conditioned to hold back — will yourself to make the first move.
On the other hand, expat women (at least those from non-Scandinavian countries) tend to complain that they don’t feel quite as beautiful without the constant explicit attention and, more importantly, they can’t seem to figure out how to snag a local lover.So, whether you’re looking to knock nethers in Amsterdam or ensnare a Dutchman passing through your neck of the woods, here’s Tipsy’s compilation of advice from women (Dutch and otherwise) who have (eventually) succeeded in bagging one of these elusive prizes: • Project strength.