I’ve got a great story that I want to share with you today.
Even though I bill myself as a dating coach for “smart, strong, successful women”, I still maintain a few male clients.
And dating coaching isn’t telling you where the “quality” women hang out. And the not-so-subtle reason I shared this story with you is to ask you to reflect on whether you have anything in common with James. Are you frustrated that men don’t take the time to get to know you?
After 12 weeks of coaching with me, you know who’s going to be the same? As such, the ONLY thing we can do is change how YOU’RE approaching dating. ” James paused for a second, gritted his teeth, and said, “I don’t want to change very much. Do you get bent out of shape when men IGNORE you online, DON’T FOLLOW UP after dates, and generally seem to want the PERFECT woman?
“James” tells me that he’s 30 years old, living in Seattle, working in IT. A little angry, perhaps, but I’m used to getting clients who aren’t too happy with the fact that they’re reaching out to a dating coach.
James tells me that after focusing on his career for most of his 20’s, he’s been dating intently for the past year. It seems that whenever he goes out with women, they’re all so SHALLOW.
I enjoy working with guys because, when they’re motivated, they’re hardworking and highly coachable.
Plus, the men who gravitate towards me are usually “nice guys” who just need a little bit of an edge to succeed wildly with women.