In some cases, such confusion is justified, since the ENFP may herself be experiencing ambivalence with respect to her identity.Namely, do they want a more traditional lifestyle and relationship or a less conventional one? Their Ne-Fi combination relishes the opportunity to compare and experience diverse cultures.Perhaps more importantly, as they go about their travels, there is a sense in which they hope to find themselves.They may give lip service to certain Si values, while living in a way that seems to contradict those values.This can of course be difficult for their prospective partners, who may feel confused about who the ENFP really is.
This produces a curious admixture of openness and unconventionality (Ne), on the hand, and a concern for the familiar and traditional (Si), on the other.
Early in their development, ENFPs struggle to negotiate a balance between their dominant function, Extraverted Intuition (Ne), and their inferior function, Introverted Sensing (Si).
This is due to the fact that their Introverted Feeling (Fi) function is in the auxiliary rather than dominant position in their functional stack.
Hence, less mature ENFPs can often seem rather fickle or hypocritical.
Behaviorally, however, they seem to live by their own rules, according to the whims and ways of their Ne.These sorts of dominant-inferior struggles can engender confusion with regard to what they want out of life and out of their relationships.