The few times he gets up the nerve to approach her, something gets in the way and messes things up. A lot of guys can sympathize, some more than others.
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As cliché as it sounds, being yourself is probably the best way to ensure you not only have a good time on a first date, but also get a second date, too. Sure, a cocktail or two can be fun and loosen the mood, but know your limits.
So, how do you deal with the anxiety that inevitably comes with first-date territory? There’s not much to say here without sounding like a preachy parent, but keep this in mind: Having to be carried home by someone you barely know isn’t fun (nor is slurring your words or crying at the dinner table). Checking Instagram can wait—and definitely don’t post any status updates, tweets about your date in real time, or snap any candid pics when they’re not looking. However, if you offer to pay or split, be prepared to pay or split. Just maybe don’t stalk and accidentally like their Instagram photos—or worse, their ex’s Instagram photos. It’ll alleviate any anxiety he’s having about whether he’s showing you a good time, and it’ll just make you more fun to be around, pure and simple.
I’ll be the first to admit: I write most of my articles with a male audience in mind. well, I’m a guy, and a lot of my advice is naturally going to be coming from a male perspective and male experiences. As a general rule, women are more socialized towards being willing to ask for help when trying to improve their chances with guys.Men, on the other hand, are told that they exist in binary states; either they’re good with women or they aren’t.