Now that I am divorced, I know that a marriage certificate isn’t as important as a life-long commitment. Always remember, you are writing this on your way out. The joy is in the journey…discovering each other and embracing life.
You are not analyzing celebrity relationships and asking men to be movie stars. I am on the road a lot for my job so I want to know there is someone there for me when I come home…someone caring, honest, intelligent, a good listener.
Write it like you have lots of things going on in your life, but that you just thought this would be fun. Nothing about intense feelings, longings, hopes, and dreams that would scare the average man away.
Do not put a lot of effort into it as if you are writing your doctoral thesis. She does not say she is looking for marriage and children.
To join an online dating service, whether it is jdate.com, match.com, or [email protected], you are required to fill out a questionnaire that may include as many as 50 questions.
This questionnaire essentially makes up your ad or profile.
I want a man who is comfortable enough to let me see his inner child, someone not afraid to show his emotions.
Here is an example of a good Rules-y ad, titled Blue Eyed Blond Beauty32: I live in Boston. Classic mistakes we found included: I want a relationship like Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins, a bond that is stronger than a piece of paper. When asked to describe her ideal mate, one successful woman in her thirties answered: The man I want to meet is successful in business, sophisticated yet laid back, compassionate yet driven, outdoorsy but a homebody, who can take me to fine restaurants and on wonderful vacations, and most important be my best friend. Basically she is saying she wants everything, particularly a rich guy. When asked about life goals, one stunning woman in her fifties answered: I am looking to share love and life.Do not feel you have to answer every question and do not break any Rules in doing so. I’d like to meet someone who is between the ages of 32 and 40.A peculiar phenomenon born of online dating has occurred whereby, for some reason, women who would never consider responding to such intimate questions on a date or in a bar will answer very personal questions with honesty and integrity in beautifully scripted essays about things that are absolutely nobody’s business such as “five-year goals” and “annual income.” We believe a man has to go out with you for several months to find out what your goals are! Thus, the key to writing a good ad is to give the impression that you just threw some answers down with a cute pic on your way out to a business meeting or the gym, because, after all, you are very busy. The reason that this is a good ad is that it is factual (height, weight, and other physical attributes) and it is easy to read, not poetic or heavy-handed or demanding.Questions may include height, weight, job description, favorite TV show, goals, ideals, and a self-description.
Do not agonize over filling out these forms, since most men will only look at your photo and simply scan whatever you write.This is not an answer to a question, it is poetry and therapy. There is absolutely no mystery or excitement for a man when a woman says everything on her mind.