There are a lot of things that I like about him; it's hard to put into words. Then my parents went to his place and met his parents, and they liked everything, so he flew from the U. With him, whenever I spoke, it felt like I [had] known him forever. I had called and chatted with several girls in the past, but it never really worked out for me. When you live with someone, you just learn to like that life and go with it. I was looking through emails for about two years or so. There are a lot of love marriages as well and different things happening, but growing up, I saw that going on and someday I knew that this was going to happen to me, as well.
So, for me, I was open that if somebody right comes along that I am attracted to and that I like for a long-term relationship, then I would go ahead with it. So how long did you guys talk before you met in person? He liked me and he told his parents that he was interested, so his parents called my parents.
Sandhya: He was, like, all shy and I was talking, and then he just went home, and the next day, his parents called and said that he wants to get married to me and my parents were like, "Is it OK with you?
Sandhya is 29 years old and her husband, Ankur, is 31. My dad, every Sunday, he would send in and screen these ads, and whichever he thought could be the potential matches, he would mark them and tell me, "Whoever you are interested in just send them an email." I remember being a little girl and like, "No, I'm not going to go through that. With her, I saw her email, we met once, and then we talked once, and it just felt right. Was it strange to start a relationship that's like, "OK, this is going to be serious. Sandhya: I think we had a lot of conditioning from our parents about it.
Before they got married, she lived in India, he lived in America, and they met when Sandhya's parents placed a newspaper ad (in the "matrimonial column") looking for potential husbands for her.
Obviously we both are imperfect and we have our own flaws, but as a partner, how can I bring out the best in him and how can he do the same and how can we support each other? Sandhya: It's weird — we're on the same page about these big decisions without even discussing them. Sandhya: It's folklore back home [that] when you get married, you walk around fire seven times, seven rotations, and it's said you're going to be married for seven lifetimes. What are you guys most looking forward to in your marriage? Ankur: All we want to do currently at this state of life is have fun and travel around before we have kids as much as possible.