Tiel has been married for 26 years to a man 15 years her junior. Before you tell your adult children that you are dating again (or make a big deal about someone specific), make sure that the two of you are a couple.Ask yourself whether you feel serious about this person. Phil explores the controversial trend of older women dating much younger men. First, Pie, a 58-year-old self-admitted cougar, has been dating 24-year-old Oleg for four months — and her best friend, Terese, strongly disapproves. Then, 52-year-old divorcée Bella says her relationship with 32-year-old Eddie is the best she has ever had. “The sexual relationship is really just the icing on the cake, the whip cream on the pie. Terese says her friend has a pattern of getting her heart broken — and she’ll have to pick up the pieces. Our chemistry is definitely off the charts.” Bella says sex with Eddie is the best she has ever had.Eddie says he loves Bella and doesn’t mind that she’s the same age as his mother. And, 76-year-old Aalsa — former Miss Cougar America — says after 40, men go downhill! ” Pie continues, “Based on the definition of cougar, I think I qualify. It’s just a great perk that comes along with young men. She caters to me.”Pie’s best friend, Terese, strongly disapproves of the relationship. Bella, 52, has been dating Eddie, 32, for nearly a year. “I love being a cougar, and I don’t care what other people think."When we say age is just a number, we mean it," says Lifecoach Malti Bhojwani, commenting on this trend.
You don't want to get your adult children involved, attached, or concerned when it's not necessary.
Relationship experts believe that 'cougars' - or women 40 years and above who prefer dating much younger men - are facing stiff competition from their younger counterparts, known as 'cheetahs.' They are essentially women in their 30s who while having a history of dating older men, are now settling for men who are in their 20s or just a few years younger than them.
“The youngest man I dated was 20, and I was 50, and he asked me out,” she says.
Older women taking up with younger men are often called cougars, a phrase one woman took offense to in a blog post for called, "Marry An Older Man First Then Go Younger..." Vicky Tiel joined a panel on Huff Post Live to discuss older women and younger men dating (or in her case, marrying).
After dating younger men for four decades, what advice does she have for fellow cougars? Pie, 58, has been dating 24-year-old Oleg for four months. Anyone who has an issue with me going out with younger men — love is love, baby. I’m just having fun.”Bella’s friend, Lois, says their relationship is doomed to fail.Tune in and decide for yourself: Can a relationship really survive a significant age gap? “I love younger men because one thing they have is hair. You never know where you’re going to find it.”“Pie is very vibrant, very alive,” Oleg says. “Eddie is going to want to eventually move on to somebody younger.