Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes -- only now with fewer single people around who happen to live in the same building and share meals with them every day.
So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1,000 times worse once they're tossed from the warm womb of their alma mater.
Of course, as noted above, things only get worse once you graduate.
And if you're frustrated with your love life, you just might try to compensate by working harder and achieving even more to fill that void.
The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus as I observed them as an advisor and, earlier, indulged in them as a student.Dating is at best another extracurricular, number six or number seven down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.I've been co-hosting young alumni events for name-brand schools for long enough to know that these kids come out a little lopsided (which sounds so much better than "socially awkward," don't you think? All they need is a little tune up, or a little dating textbook like The Tao of Dating for Women or The Tao of Dating for Men, to get them going -- plus a little practice.Left untreated, this condition can go on for decades.
And smart families are usually achievement-oriented. The upshot of all that achievement is that you get into a top college -- congratulations!-- and then continue doing even more of what you were doing before.