Now I simply drop the Jesus-bomb right away.”She says dates were easier to come by in her early twenties, when most people that age are still single.“But my twenties came and went and now most of my peers are married and having babies,” she explains. And the few I have seen, I have no interest in, not that they are asking me out in the first place.”Theresa is far from alone in her situation.Though she’s had a few long-term dating relationships, she says she still hasn’t found the right guy.Being single today -especially a single Christian- isn’t easy.A variety of issues assault today’s Christian singles, including pressure to marry from family, friends, and well-intentioned church members; a lack of dating options; and, of course, sexual temptation.
“They thought they would be married by now, or if they’re divorced, they never expected that to happen to them,” says 33-year-old Lori Smith, author of The Single Truth: Challenging the Misconceptions of Singleness with God’s Consuming Truth.
“They often feel less Christian because the church emphasizes family so much that singles are left with the impression that good Christians get married and have kids. Many are depressed about being single and don’t know how to change the way they feel.” At 32, Camerin Courtney, the managing editor of Today’s Christian Woman (a sister publication of this magazine), says she never expected to be dating at her age, let alone writing a singles column for Christianity