Also, I wouldn't trust someone to put my best interests in mind -- like preventing pregnancy and using proper protection -- after knowing them for that short a period of time." "As a woman, I'm an adamant supporter of sex on the first date when I feel like it.
I hate that we've been socialized to withhold sex from men and use it as a dangling carrot.
Oh, and don't forget to factor in your personal desires.
To add to all of that, the prevalence of online dating makes things a little more complicated: After those fateful right swipes, many women don't meet their match in person until the first date itself, which only amplifies those aforementioned fears and unhelpful commentary.
Treating sex like a prize or an arbitrary milestone teaches us to suppress our sexual desires for the sake of gender and social norms.
The only question you should ask yourself when deciding if you want to have sex should be 'Do I want to have sex?
Making that decision often involves canceling out a lot of unhelpful noise (whether it's from your peers or from your date), not to mention worrying about scary stuff like STDs and the possibility of getting pregnant.
For example, let's say that the date is with a person you've known for years and they asked you to dinner. Now the only question is: Are we sexually compatible?